Momentum Isn’t a Hustle - It’s a Comedy of Errors You’re Finally Allowed to Laugh At

RACHEL LAFORCE
Sep 18
4 min read

Listen, am I stoked to be the one to remind us we’re probably still getting in our way? Liiike - again. No. But am I equally stoked to know that by choosing to release (once again) old patterns that do not serve us that we are capable of living our way into total alignment? YEAH, I SURE AM! Here’s the thing about momentum: everyone wants it, but not everyone knows what to do with it. One minute you’re on the train to your new life, the next you’re that girl clinging to the pole like, ‘oh cool, so gravity’s just…optional now?’. Trust me, I geeettt it.

This week on Healing is Hilarious, I’m serving the first three of my Six Principles of Momentum. Think of them as your non-toxic, totally organic, pre-workout for actual life shifts (no overpriced neutral colored shaker required). YOU’RE WELCOME:

1. Assess the Gap. Full discloser - if you aren’t honest with yourself on this first one, there’s really no point. Ahem - okay - here we go. . . What’s the distance between your dream life and your daily actions? If your vision board says “calm CEO energy” but your actions scream “panicked raccoon,” congrats - you’ve identified the gap. That’s not judgment, it’s data. Momentum - aka alignment - starts with honesty, not speed. Momentum isn’t about going faster. It isn’t about “getting to the thing” faster. Momentum is total alignment. When we move our lives (pysically, spiritually and mentally) towards who we really are and who we want to be - that in turn creates momentum because you can’t stop what is meant for you when you’re headed in the right direction.

2. The People You Love Aren’t Perfect. I know, rude. Turns out your dad, your partner, your boss - they’re all just…people. Crazy right? When you stop trying to script their behavior, you create actual space for connection, not just silent resentment over them “not getting it.” Spoiler: they won’t get it. That’s okay. They are not here to make you comfortable all of the time. They are not here to agree with you all of the time. Of course there is a radical difference between being in relationship with folks who are harmful - but that’s not what we are talking about here. I am talking about truly allowing the people in your life that you love the most - s p a c e - give them the same space and grace you want to receive. When we allow people to be human, we stop hurting our own damn feelings so much. Plus - less time spent on micromanaging others behavior, gives you the time and energy to focus on yourself. . . just saying.

3. Release “The Right Way.” Here’s the punchline: if there was a right way, it would’ve worked by now. Buuuut it hasn’t. So maybe - just maybe - it’s time to stop micromanaging life like it’s your intern and start letting momentum carry you forward - even if it looks messy, even if it’s not Instagram aesthetic. Which btw chasing that dream is sooo 2017. We’ve moved on. Momentum is found in the messy middle. Momentum is found through repeat action. Momentum is found through clear communication. Momentum isnt only available to others - honestly bb - she’s been crushing on you for a minute and you’ve had your head too far up your own shit to notice. Told you I didn’t want to be the messenger here. LOLZ. Mostly, because I can’t stand the truth. But it’s true what they say, “the truth will set you free”. And in this case - the truth will punch you in the face but then make you a green juice and watch old reruns of The O.C. with you. Okay maybe not - but accepting the truth - YOUR truth - will give you all that you’ve been searching for. There is no right way. Just the way you do it. Sooo get there. We need you.

Takeaways

Momentum ≠ hustle. It’s alignment.
Honesty about the gap dissolves confusion.
Grace for others = peace for you.
“The right way” is a scam.

Journal Prompts

Where am I still clinging to speed instead of trusting pace?
What gap between vision and action is asking for my attention right now?
Which loved one do I need to let off the hook of perfection?
Where am I still chasing “the right way” instead of trying my way?

Momentum isn’t about brute force - it’s about learning how to let life move with you. And sometimes, the most radical thing you can do is laugh in the face of your old rules and keep going anyway.

As always, tune out, tune in. Love you, mean it.