REDEFINING WHAT IT MEANS TO BE YOU IN A WORLD FULL OF THEM

Hey, hi, hello. Let’s skip the small talk and dive straight into the deep end.

What if the stuff you swear you like… isn't actually you? What if you only think you like it because one time, a dude with floppy hair and commitment issues said it was cool, and your hormones said, “Okay, SOLD”?

Yep. Let’s go there.

I’m talking bands, cars, podcasts, oat milk preferences—whatever. If you’ve ever sat through a three-hour documentary on vinyl pressing because your crush said he loves analog sound, congratulations, you’re not alone. You’re human. And probably a little tired. So, I ask again. How much of your life is actually yours? Your favorite candle, your “signature dish,” even your coffee order - how many of those choices were shaped by exes, trends, or that one girl on TikTok who convinced you tahini is a lifestyle?

I’ll wait.

At some point, we all slip into “sure, whatever works” mode. And suddenly, you wake up one day like, Who the hell is this person who owns three ring lights and doesn’t even like bright lighting?

So here’s the million-dollar question: What do you actually like?

Because choosing yourself in a world that’s constantly trying to sell you a version of who you should be? That’s power. That’s hot. That’s some full-grown, Beyoncé-in-a-silk-robe energy. You know what else is sexy? Boundaries. Let’s address the people pleasers (hi, my loves). Repeat after me: Saying no is not mean. Setting boundaries doesn’t need a paragraph. It doesn’t require a mood board or an apology tour. It can sound like: “Hey babe, I’m gonna pass on that thing. Love you though.”

Send. Done. Look at you, boundary queen.

Those women you admire for being so chill, so unbothered, so mysteriously magnetic? They’re not magical woodland creatures. They just know who they are, and they don’t bend for chaos. So my challenge for you this week - or whenever you find your way here -is deceptively simple: make a list of your actual favorite things. Not the cool-girl list. Not the “curated identity” list. The real, probably-a-little-weird, definitely-fun, YOU list.

Baggy sweaters over fitted blazers? Wear them.

Gummy bears instead of Gucci? Icon behavior.

Hanson on repeat? You are the moment.

Now take a look at that list, and then take a look at your life. Where’s the disconnect? Time to start closing the gap, indulgently and without asking for permission. 

Let’s wrap with a little grown woman gospel:

Not everyone is going to get you.

And that’s kind of the point.

You don’t need to be everyone’s cup of matcha. You just need to be your own damn shot of something sweet! The women who are truly magnetic aren’t trying to win the room - they own their room, and let the right people show up. So as summer unfolds and the world continues to turn, let your realest self step into the spotlight. No filters. No borrowed vibes. Just you, wild and weird.

Because in a world desperate to label you, define you, and stick you in a cute aesthetic box? The woman who dares to say, “Nah, I’ll do me”, she’s the one we can’t stop watching.

I am so excited for you. And for me. I am not immune and here doing this work right along with you. As always, tune out, tune in. Love you, mean it!

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